Before Marguerite McLoughlin (circa 1775-1860) became first lady of Fort Vancouver, she was married to Alexander McKay, a clerk at the North West Company’s Fort William in present day Canada. He later took their son, Thomas, to help John Jacob Astor found Fort George at the mouth of the Columbia River, leaving Marguerite behind with their three daughters.
Husbands “casting off” in this way was common in the fur business because of men’s mobility. It nullified country marriages, the term for common-law marriages between European fur traders and Indigenous women.
In 1811, McKay died in a conflict with the Indigenous people living at Clayoquot Sound when they blew up the Tonquin, leaving no survivors. Marguerite had lost a man important in her life before. As a 7-year-old, Marguerite watched a fur trader murder her father, Jean-Etienne Waddens. How she and her mother survived afterward isn’t known.
While she was at Fort William, Marguerite met Dr. John McLoughlin (1784-1857), who worked as a North West Company clerk there. When McKay died, Marguerite befriended the younger McLoughlin, whose wife had died in childbirth, leaving him with a child. Although he was trained in Western medicine, Marguerite added her understanding of native herbs and plants to assist with patients’ health care. When the British government pressured the North West Company and the Hudson’s Bay Company to merge in 1821, the two were paired in a country marriage. They had four children together: John Jr., Elisabeth, Eloisa and David.