PHILADELPHIA — The illness struck Lisa Parladé’s father in September swiftly and without warning.
A serious intestinal condition, it required surgery and a long, painful recovery. In its wake, he has experienced cognitive decline. Santiago Parladé, 77, who used to cook his own meals and drive his own car could no longer care for himself. He suddenly relied on his daughter for everything, even bathing.
“This is a person who’s raised me and taken care of me and you want to do the same thing for them in their time of need,” said the 34-year-old student adviser at the University of Pennsylvania, “but I don’t have the training, I don’t have the expertise, I don’t have the time.”
Finding a home health aide became another long ordeal.
The pandemic has made home health staffing nationwide even scarcer than it already was. The Parladés are among an untold number of Americans who had no option but to become caregivers, potentially damaging careers and straining relationships with the people they love the most.
“I’m having to give her 110% of myself,” said Jessica Berger, whose daughter Zoe Potack, 11, has severe autism, “but I have a husband and I have my [other] daughter. It doesn’t feel good to not be able to give my time and attention to all those other things and people that matter.”